APPRECIATION: THE WHEN, HOW AND WHY.

Some days back I listened to a message that has inspired me to write on the above subject.

Irrespective of our gender, age we all want to be appreciated or praised for whatever good we have done. But one thing that we must know is that it should be done at the right time and cheerfully and not out of necessity.  There is also this need for us to know when to do. 

We tend to appreciate people better when we hear of their death or see their casket at the time of eulogy.  At this point you hear people say all manner of kind words about him. Some folks write book in memory of the dead. Some write pages of praises about the dead. I tag it the wrong time because at this point it is irrelevant. Wouldn’t it be better if the person was alive to read about his praises? 

Appreciation is meant to propel a living person not the dead into doing more good. Why appreciate a dead man when he can’t tell you thanks. Imagine if he/she were there to take all the praises at this particular time, he/she certainly would be happy. I have never seen a man who hates to be praised. 

Then do it why the person is with you. We also see people cry about the death of a beloved one, spouse, brother or friend. Death can come at any time but we do not pray to die unfruitful or premature. Did you ever express love to the beloved why he was alive?  Was he valued by you while he was here with you? How did you cherish the moment you shared together or you never did. Stop waiting for people to die to show them how you care about them. You may decide to offer a befitting burial ceremony. Did you ever offer him a befitting Birthday ceremony? Now is the time.

There is this tendency of postponing our expression of gratitude. I called it wickedness. Those who do this I think them unthankful and heartless. Whoever shows us a little kindness no matter the status of the person, there is need for appreciation. Some parents are guilty of this as they often fail to appreciate their children for their good job at home.

Some people still have this character of “never showing appreciation”. They think it is not important. Unthankful nature can break a relationship. If you want to keep your relationship be thankful. Those who are thankful always get more and are happier. 

It is wrong for those around you to beg you for encomiums. Don’t let them gasps for it especially when they deserve it. Be generous with it and do it cheerfully. Do not procrastinate about it. Always do it immediately whenever you notice an act of kindness shown towards you. It opens rooms for more and releases energy for excitement.  It will make you feel great and increase your integrity. 

KEYNOTE:

Do not wait for the casket to show appreciation.

Encomiums are meant for everybody irrespective of age or gender.

Always do it at the right time; never procrastinate about it.

Be generous and cheerful about it.

Precious Omoregbe

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